Okay I Need To Breathe Deeply

Breathing, breathing, hmmm not better yet.

My routine in the morning is once I'm awake and have my coffee, I walk the dogs, then I walk around the house picking things up. Like the coffee cups and wine glasses from the night before (if I didn't put the cups in the dishwasher before bed), feed the cats, make sure cats and dogs have fresh water. Clean up whatever mess DH left me in the morning. Just little things like that, maybe start a load of laundry, then I grab some breakfast, another cup of coffee and head for my computer and read the MBs and catch up on what I missed last night and early this morning. Well today I read a post where a DH wouldn't help this poor woman whose back was in pain... Here is a quote from her message, "I know he thinks since I am a SAHM it is my job to chase the girls, but my backache wasn't something new." OKAY.... here is where I want to have a fit. Just because you are a SAHM does not mean your husband cannot help around the house. Where does this give him a license to do nada? Did it not take two to make your children? Then it should take two to help raise them. Another woman posted that her husband told her that her daughter was fussy and that "you're used to it I'm not and you just got a break to go get our dinner." She happened to have gone out to get dinner. EXCUSE ME!!!!! Okay you just worked 8 hours (for the normal Joe, even if it is more so?) for the day and now you have a what 16 HOUR BREAK???? Where is your wife's 16 hour break? GIVE ME A BREAK HERE!!! This just gets me so aggravated can't you tell.

Thank God my DH helped me, if he came home from work whether I was a SAHM or not and if the boys were just to much that day, or even if they weren't, he would tell me to go relax and he would take care of them for a while. The only thing was/is when I SAH I feel it is my job to keep the house and clothes clean, and cook, but there is nothing saying that he can't help set the table, clear the table or help with dishes. Matter-of-fact if I've cooked he will usually tell me to sit and he will get up and put dishes and food away. For some reason he doesn't do counters, but you know what, I don't mind, he at least helped in some way. Yes! I do thank him and let him know it was appreciated, and YES I will also tell him when he has not done something right, such as wash t-shirts with towels. How else will my DH know how to do things, he was not taught these things growing up, his laundry, meals and everything else were done for him. But he did work on a farm and we are talking very long days, getting up early in the morning, 4 a.m., take care of farm chores, including milking cows, then get ready, breakfast and head to school, then when he got back he had to do more farm things, including night milking. DH also played sports in school, so I can understand not knowing some of these things. So yes, I would GENTLY tell him and teach him, and he had no problem doing. DH also did the majority of cooking in our house, especially when I worked. I really did not like to cook and DH loves to cook, he always has wanted to open a restaurant. The last 2 or so years I have gotten into cooking and really love it.

So everytime I hear, because a woman stays at home it is her duty to do everything and take care of the kids 24/7, sorry I don't sympathize with you when your DH is not helping, it is your responsibility to have him help you. Even if it means saying; here are the kids I've had them since 6 this morning you have had a break all day so now it is my turn. Sweetheart if he loves you and them he will have no problem pitching in.